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Why are quality time gifts important?

Why are quality time gifts important?

In Gary Chapman’s books  The Five Love Languages and The Five Love Languages for Kids, he explains how there are primarily five ways that people feel the most loved and seen. These are through gifts, quality time, acts of service, words of affirmation, and physical affection. If you want to learn what you or a family member’s love language are, I would highly recommend going to his website and taking the quizzes there. \n\nThis is a very important consideration in our relationships and with our kids. We care that they feel seen, and in any area of our lives, it is important to be doing the things that matter as opposed to wasting time or money doing the things that are not making an impact at all. This helps them learn what their needs are, how to ask for them, build self-confidence, and how to create meaningful connections with others in the future. Finally, you can actually save money because you are swapping toy gifts for experiences that you may be doing randomly anyway but not bringing ENOUGH FOCUS ON IT! Making it a focal gift gives it the attention it deserves, which increases gratitude. I highly recommend also doing this with trips you take as a family. I make Spring Break trips a present under the tree with a basket with fun things like new towels and activities we will do on the trip. \n\nI believe that this can get very confusing with kids because they naturally ask for lots of things. But, how frustrating is it when you spend money, and they don’t appreciate something, or something isn’t seeming to fill their cup?!?! I believe quality time is a common love language of many people, especially kids. Therefore, there are really easy and creative ways to make \”gift\” events time where we can gift experiences and memories instead of toys. This has several positive impacts: 1. reduce anxiety connected with clutter 2. increases gratitude 3. increases connection because you are fulfilling their true core needs as opposed to a temporary impulsive desire for \”stuff\”. \n\nThe kids in my house are great examples of this. My oldest son and step-daughter are very much quality time kids. Doing things with others is the most important thing for both of them. They may ask for souvenirs or toys when they see things they like, but it clutters things up!!! I can tell that all the events we plan together or games we play mean the most to them though because that is what they talk about in the long run. \n\nSo, with these quality time E-book these two are my inspiration. I have planned a year of dates with both boys and girls in mind. There are 12 dates (1 for each month) for each gender. So, with 24 ideas, you can mix and match what suits your child. Many of the ideas for each would be easy for me to swap because my son loves theater and my step-daughter loves games. \n\nThese are great to put together for Christmas, Valentine’s day, or a birthday. Plus, you can do this every year and change the dates as their interests change! It is a great tradition to start when they are young so you can stay connected as they grow up and gravitate more towards friends and extracurricular activities. This is also an amazing idea to give grandparents or other guardians who spend alot of time with your kids. . \n\n”}],”B”:[{“A?”:”A”,”A”:{“text-transform”:{“B”:”none”},”kerning”:{“B”:”0.0″},”spacing”:{“B”:”0.0″},”font-weight”:{“B”:”normal”},”leading”:{“B”:”1400.0″},”font-size”:{“B”:”16.0″},”font-family”:{“B”:”YACgEVEOb9k,0″},”font-style”:{“B”:”normal”},”tracking”:{“B”:”0.0″}}},{“A?”:”B”,”A”:3236},{“A?”:”A”,”A”:{“text-transform”:{“A”:”none”},”kerning”:{“A”:”0.0″},”spacing”:{“A”:”0.0″},”font-weight”:{“A”:”normal”},”leading”:{“A”:”1400.0″},”font-size”:{“A”:”16.0″},”font-family”:{“A”:”YACgEVEOb9k,0″},”font-style”:{“A”:”normal”},”tracking”:{“A”:”0.0″}}}]},”b”:{},”d”:”A”,”e”:640,”f”:964.8,”g”:false,”h”:”B”}],”B”:800,”C”:1200}

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